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Just lost someone? Brain not working? Start with these. They're the survival basics — no fluff, no healing journey garbage.
If you're here, something terrible probably just happened. Or maybe it happened a while ago and you're still drowning. Either way, you're in the right place.
These guides are designed to be read when your brain is running at about 15% capacity. Short paragraphs. Clear steps. No inspirational bullshit. Read them in order or jump to whatever feels most urgent right now.
THE FIRST 72 HOURS
12 min read 02FUNERAL FOG
10 min read 03WHEN PEOPLE DISAPPEAR
9 min read 04THE RAGE PHASE
8 min read 05SLEEPING & EATING BASICS
7 min readWhat Else Is Here
Once you've made it through the survival basics, there's more.
The THE AFTERMATH DIARIES
Longer posts about rage, memory, practical logistics, and the weird parts of grief nobody talks about. Written in real-time by someone who's still in it.
READ THE DIARIES →SURVIVAL SHIT
Scripts for what to say when people ask how you're doing, crisis hotlines, book recommendations that don't suck, and printable checklists for the days when you can't think straight.
BROWSE SURVIVAL SHIT →GET THE GRIEF SURVIVAL CHEAT SHEET
A one-page printable with the 20 things you actually need to know when grief hits. Straight talk, zero filler.
Get the Cheat Sheet